(This is the post I referred to in my previous post) I’m feeling lots of feelings today. I’m upset that the Brunswick police have made an incident which was already frightening and threatening to me even more so. I hate that they made me feel more violated than I already was. I am incredibly distrustful of our “justice” system. I’m upset that Adrian Bailey had been convicted of raping or attempting to rape eight women and was allowed on parole. I’m upset that the majority of rapes go unreported, so who knows how many women that monster has hurt. I’m upset that Oscar Yildiz (mayor of Moreland City Council) is an advocate for CCTV cameras being used in Brunswick to promote safety, when in reality they’re only useful after a crime has been committed. I’m angry that I’m still being told not to walk around alone when I should be hearing men being told not to rape, assault or intimidate.
I’m upset because when speaking about sexual harassment with many of my male friends they laugh or think I’m exaggerating. I’m sad because some of my male friends come to me in private and tell me their stories of violence that society ignores. I’m upset because I don’t know a single woman whose safety has not been threatened in a very real way by a man. I’m angry because I haven’t even started on the disproportionate violence experienced by non-binary gendered people, and already what I’ve described is horrible enough. I’m furious that some people reading this will think I hate all men: I don’t.
I’m frustrated because I don’t see change and I don’t know how to put it in place.
I posted an emotional rant about my distrust of the justice system, how upset I was at the way the police handled a recent sexual crime against me, how fucked Adrian Bayley is and my frustration with if all (I’ll post it here too). Anyway, it got 54 “likes”, which is about 30 more than my most “popular” status ever (I don’t have many friends on facey). I was amazed at the diversity of who engaged with it, some girls I hadn’t spoken to forever, some guys I never thought would care about this stuff, etc. It was actually pretty heartwarming to see support and to know I’m not the only one with these feelings. But one guy commented saying “your failure to acknowledge not all men are criminals offends me, I’m sick of being grouped in with these people when plenty of women are committing the same crimes” bla bla bla. (In my post I acknowledge men as victims and state I don’t hate all men). Everyone on tumblr is not a fuckwit, so I don’t have to explain what’s fucked about that statement - but I hate that with a mass of support, one comment like that has made me so angry and hurt. It completely takes away what I was trying to say and shifts the argument in a whole different, not relevant and not important direction. I think this is what I hate so much about straight white rich boys - they’re so entitled they want credit for not raping people, and will always speak over the marginalized.
What’s the go with this tumblr spam diet message I receive every five fucking seconds?
Piss off you’re not welcome.